#2639 So You Got Drunk And Dialed Your Ex Behind Your Boyfriend’s Back

Jlynn Norvell editorial.
Anon asks: Under the influence of some substances, some inappropriate words (along the lines of ‘why didn’t we work out, could anything ever happen again’) were exchanged between me and my ex. The next day I took back everything I said and told him I didn’t mean any of it and that I was happy with my current boyfriend. Now I feel so incredibly guilty, if my current boyfriend knew what went down he would hate me. My ex and my current boyfriend are sort of mates, too. What do I do?

Well the horse has already bolted so there’s not a whole lot of point in trying to close the stable door. Don’t do it again, because technically you’re cheating emotionally on your current boyfriend, but I would suggest you just leave it. Don’t tell your boyfriend, don’t have long-winded conversations about what you said or how guilty you feel with your ex, don’t ask advice from your mutual friends, and do not do it again.

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#2638 Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

View of the Empire State Building from the Top of the Rock.

Anon asks: Hi Isaac, I’ve been living with my boyfriend in the same small town for 10 years and I have extremely itchy feet. Most of my friends moved overseas straight after college, but I stayed behind, bought a house, and watched as they flourished in their careers and lives while I was stuck back here. I love my boyfriend but he loves this city and I’m not sure if he’ll follow if I leave. Sometimes I feel like I’m suffocating here. What to do?

Mate that’s a pickle, alright. I can relate on so many levels. I grew up in Christchurch, New Zealand (a city of 350,000 people), and always felt like I just didn’t fit in with my conservative, middle-class, often narrow-minded peers. All my energy was spent looking at what else was out there, and the moment I left school, I up and left for Auckland, where I knew that I’d be surrounded by worldly, diverse and like-minded people, and I never looked back.

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#2636 How To Deal With A Moody Boss Slash Boyfriend

Hugh Grant and Renee Zellweger in Bridget Jones' Diary

Anon asks: How to maintain work and personal life balance when you’re dating your boss? I waitress and he’s in the kitchen most nights and he can get shitty about work, which can also involve his employees, me being one of them. Naturally it’s going to take a toll on our relationship but how can I fix that? I’m definitely going to quit soon but any other advice? And how much time is enough in giving your partner space when they’re pissed at you? I don’t want to seem I don’t care but I don’t want to push it.

Mate! I worked at this Mexican restaurant in Christchurch, New Zealand, in 2005, and the chef there was a disgusting pig of a man. He was angry, he was dirty, he was ludicrously unattractive, he smelt awful, he used to walk around the dining room with his hands down his pants scratching his balls in full view of the customers (then not wash his hands and go prepare food), but worst of all, he slept with every single waitress who worked in the place. Every single one! How this occurred I will never know, but they all seemed to get very upset afterwards and it led me to believe that maybe intra-restaurant relationships are not the best idea.

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#2635 In The Trenches

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I’ve been thinking about trench coats quite a lot recently, because right now New York always seems to be chilly but not freezing, blustery but not torrential; that time of year when you always need a lightweight jacket of some variety or other, but it’s still too early for a full-blown woolen overcoat. Trench coat weather, if you will.

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