#2729 How To Deal With Your Boyfriend’s Crazy Ex Girlfriend

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Anon asks: Hi Isaac! My boyfriend has an overly familiar ex-girlfriend who — five years on! — is obsessed with him and she despises me. So many stories and stalkings. I’ve raised my concerns about this situation over and over and he has acknowledged my concerns but has made no promise of anything, e.g. cutting her off. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship otherwise but on the other hand I feel used and disrespected. Help me with the bunny boiler situation!

Mate! You are well within your rights to put your foot down about this one. How you’ve allowed this to go on for such a long time is beyond me, but now is the time to hit the nail on the head. Just say no.

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#2728 The Perils Of Cohabitation

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Anon asks: Hey Isaac! Hope you’re well. Me and my girlfriend had a debate recently. We’ve been dating for about a year and the idea of us potentially moving in together came up. I’ve always had my mind set on waiting till marriage to do so, but she thinks it’s best to move in together so we can see if we mesh well sharing a living space together or if we’ll just get on each other’s nerves and see that we’re not good together. Should we move in together before marriage?

I live in New York City where rent is insanely high and dating is a precarious endeavour, and I feel like people will often move in together out of convenience — i.e. we sleep over at each other’s houses all the time so why not save on the rent; or because it just seems like the next logical step — i.e. we’ve been together a year, so we probably should, right? But in a lot of those cases the sensible decision would be DON’T DO IT.

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#2727 Blue And Black Or White And Gold?

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I don’t know about you, but when I saw the blue and black dress that everybody has been sending around for the past 16 hours, I saw a blue and black dress. Anybody claiming white and gold is clearly living in some other light and colour dimension that I’m not privy to. For the record, the dress is blue and black so if you saw what I saw then you got it right (Taylor, Kanye and Justin Bieber all saw blue and black so we’re in good company). So how about me? Am I wearing blue and black or white and gold? Read on to find out…

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#2726 On Sex And Waiting

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Anon asks: I met a guy from Tinder and went on a dinner date. Afterwards we went back to his place and hooked up (not sex though). I realized at this rate I’m going to just end up having sex with him the next time we hang out and I go over. Is there any way to not make this seem like a booty call even if I do go over to his place and maybe even start something? Around how long should I wait to sleep with him? I know that’s dumb to ask because it’s different for everyone but what’s a safe time to do it from a guy’s perspective?

Hey gidday mate. If I’m hearing you correctly, what you’re saying is that you’d like to have a relationship with this guy that does not just revolve around sex, correct? If that’s the case, then it’s pretty simple, really: You’re going to have to forge a relationship with him that doesn’t just revolve around sex.

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