Anon asks: I have been having a feeling that my boyfriend is cheating on me and recently got some pretty strong evidence that he is. I really don’t know what to do. I know if I confront him about it, he will flip out and end it with me and if I leave it then I am an idiot for not saying anything. I know it is stupid and I should end it but I really don’t want to end it with him… And I don’t know what to do.
So… Your boyfriend doesn’t sound like a very nice guy. And I’m sure you’re a lovely person, but you sound like an absolute pushover. You basically know that he’s cheating on you but you’re terrified he’ll break up with you if you ask him about it. Someone very wise once told me that the fear of pain is often far greater than the pain itself. And my roommate Ljubo told me last night that vampires are a metaphor for anybody who sucks the happiness out of your life. Here’s what you’ve got to ask yourself: Is your boyfriend a vampire? And are you more terrified of the prospect of being alone than actually being alone? Have you considered the possibility that you’ll actually be happier once the fang marks heal? Here’s my advice: Break up with him immediately. Don’t give him the satisfaction of asking if he’s cheating on you – I imagine the pretty strong evidence speaks for itself. Stay single for a while and learn to be happy by yourself. Steer clear of the vampires. And don’t forget: When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Best advice I’ve ever received.
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