Anon asks: Hey Isaac, I’ve been seeing this guy for six months and even though I’ve tried to convince myself otherwise, I’m pretty sure that we’re not entirely compatible. We get along fine and we always do really fun stuff together but there’s just something missing and we seem to be on different wavelengths. I feel like I’m just using him to explore and do fun stuff cause I met him when I moved to a new city. Should I break up with him if I don’t feel like it’s a love prospect? I’m scared of being alone.
Hey, gidday mate. In a word, yes.
Staying in a relationship with someone you’re not THAT into because it suits you socially or it keeps you occupied or it stops you from feeling lonely or you don’t want them to be with someone else is kinda a shitty, selfish way to behave.
If you know in your heart of hearts that you’re not going to fall for this dude, then yes, you should break up with him. You said it yourself: The two of you aren’t compatible, something is missing and you’re on different wavelengths. Most importantly, YOU’RE USING HIM (your words, not mine).
Being alone is scary. You know it, I know it and everybody reading this knows it. But being alone is where all the best personal growth happens. It’ll force you to get out of your comfort zone and to discover new hobbies and to grow some backbone that’ll assist if you’re suddenly thrown into a situation where you know nobody and nobody knows you and you’re forced to *GASP* talk to strangers.
So do it. For his sake, but especially for your sake. Cos if you don’t, you’re the worst! Don’t be the worst!
I LIKE YOU!