Hey, gidday mates! I’ve been away from NYC for almost two weeks now, and I’m definitely starting to miss my hometown. The biggest difference for me is that in New York I have an infinite amount of small interactions with people every day — on the street, in meetings, at cafes, in the subway; but in LA I can go an entire day without talking to anybody (except Jenny) unless I specifically go out of my way to do so. What happens if I’m not interacting with people all day? I’m forced to interact with myself, and that’s when the insanity kicks in.Click to Continue!
Hey, gidday mates! I don’t know about you, but I’m somebody who suffers from a serious amount of guilt every time I sleep in past 8:30am on a weekday. This morning I woke up at 10:45am. 10:45!!! I blame three things: the three parties Jenny and I deejayed till 3am last week; my newfound obsession with the family Kardashian; and the NyQuil I drank last night to dull the cold that’s a-brewin’ as we speak.Click to Continue!
1. Katherine wrote about Justin Bieber the other day, so I figure that’s as good a place as any to start. I spend a disproportionate amount of time talking and thinking about Biebz. I like two of his songs a lot (here and here), and I find myself defending him to the naysayers fairly regularly, with one simple question: Imagine if you were 18-21 with all the money in the world and everyone wanted a piece of you and you were still trying to figure out who you were, how would you behave? Probably as bad if not worse than Justin Bieber. I did endless amounts of ridiculous things and I wasn’t rich or wanted. Keep that in mind next time you’re hating.Click to Continue!
I’ve been dating a guy for about a month now. We’ve been texting every day since we met. He currently works six days a week, so he’s pretty busy. We’ve been on a few dates since we’ve been ‘talking’. The only issue is that sometimes he takes long gaps from texting. He’ll text me, “Good morning beautiful,” every morning, and at first we’ll talk back and forth, then sometimes I don’t get a response for eight hours or even till the next day. Does this mean anything? Is this a bad sign? Sincerely, Prompt Texter.
Hello PT. Have you ever heard the expression, “You have zero chill”? Look it up. You, my friend, have zero chill.Click to Continue!
Anon asks: I’ve been seeing this guy for about two months very seriously but never brought up exclusivity (but it was assumed). Anyway my friend saw that he’s active on Tinder. I’m going to bring it up with him — not in an accusing way — but more so I can know what kind of relationship we’re in. Is there a way to ask a guy you’ve been seeing that you want to be exclusive without freaking him out? It doesn’t mean we have to label it boyfriend and girlfriend yet but I just want to know. I also don’t know what I can do to make him commit.
Hey, gidday mate. Oy vey. This is the kind of question that makes me worry about this modern world of ours.Click to Continue!
Anon asks: Hey Isaac, how did you meet new people/make new friends upon arriving in New York? How have your friendships changed since getting there? I just got to London and am keen to expand the proverbial social network.
Hey, gidday mate. I moved to New York from Paris in August 2011. Besides a couple of French friends, the only people I knew in Paris were a bunch of crazy Australian girls and this Dutch dude named Edmond, and when they all decamped for New York at the end of the summer, I followed them here. They were kind enough to allow me to live with them in their apartment in the Financial District, and two days after I moved in, Tom Bull arrived.Click to Continue!
I’ve been thinking a lot about sexual signifiers recently; specifically about how people make sweeping assumptions about guys’ sexual orientation based on pre-determined and long-held social beliefs. I’m not talking about something as reductive as, “He likes clothes, he must be gay,” because it’s 2015 and I’m more surprised by young men who have no interest in clothing than by those who do, but even something as simple as, “He knows who the creative director of Chanel is, no straight guy would know that*.”Click to Continue!
1. Have you heard Rihanna, Kanye West and Paul McCartney’s new song FourFiveSeconds? I’ve only listened to it twice so I’m still forming an opinion, but I like how pared-back the production is (which contrasts like crazy with what we’ve been hearing for the past few years), and how the voice-and-guitar sound has that 90s acoustic pop sound. Almost like Alanis Morisette unplugged or something. The video has a 90s throwback vibe too, like a Gap or CK Jeans commercial, but the best bit for me is how Paul McCartney is standing playing the guitar with his back to the camera at the beginning, just like Robert Smith on the Boys Don’t Cry single cover. You can’t tell me that wasn’t intentional.Click to Continue!
Anon asks: Hi Isaac, I have this weird problem. I look at Instagram every day and can’t stop thinking that everybody’s lives are so much happier and more exciting than mine. If it’s raining where I am, it’s sunny where someone else is, if I’m working, they’re on holiday, if I’m sitting on the couch watching TV, they’re having the time of their lives at a party. I feel like I’m going crazy! What do I do?
Mate, the thing you need to remember about social media is that it’s all an elaborate ruse to make you feel bad about your sad little life (which in reality probably isn’t that sad at all). You see, social media is exactly the same as advertising: It presents you with a problem, then offers a solution to make the problem go away.Click to Continue!
Hey, gidday mates! Day two of London Collections: Men has come to a close, and after a sickly beginning, things are on the up and up. London Collections: Men is quite different from all the other fashion weeks I’ve ever been to — there are less shows, everything runs perfectly on time, and you have this incongruous mix of extraordinarily traditional Savile Row tailors who cut the world’s sharpest suits, and irreverent young creatives who might throw an extra sleeve on a jacket or cover the models’ faces in a lego mask.Click to Continue!